{"id":114,"date":"2012-05-26T22:18:00","date_gmt":"2012-05-26T22:18:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/anne.myupcomingsite.com\/the-magic-of-family-ties-and-memoir-writing\/"},"modified":"2013-08-04T13:49:14","modified_gmt":"2013-08-04T13:49:14","slug":"the-magic-of-family-ties-and-memoir-writing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/anne.myupcomingsite.com\/?p=114","title":{"rendered":"The Magic of Family Ties and Memoir Writing"},"content":{"rendered":"<div><a href=\"https:\/\/anne.myupcomingsite.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/blogger\/-hvMw8qTfAEY\/T8FFddejiUI\/AAAAAAAAAvo\/WjekPbGmz_I\/s1600\/FamilyPortrait.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright\" style=\"border: 0px none;\" alt=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/anne.myupcomingsite.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/blogger\/-hvMw8qTfAEY\/T8FFddejiUI\/AAAAAAAAAvo\/WjekPbGmz_I\/s320\/FamilyPortrait.jpg\" width=\"247\" height=\"320\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><\/div>\n<p>My five-year-old daughter was very proud of this portrait she created of our extended family.\u00a0 &#8220;Make four copies and give them to Aunt Lisa, Uncle Mike, Uncle Matt and Grandpa,&#8221; she instructed me earlier this week while putting her crayons away. I chuckle now when I think of this exchange, and today I share her creation with my siblings &#8212; at least digitally.<\/p>\n<table cellspacing=\"0\" cellpadding=\"0\">\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td><a href=\"https:\/\/anne.myupcomingsite.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/blogger\/-XcxCKPLH4bw\/T8FJRNb7mGI\/AAAAAAAAAv4\/6rMjqMehbGA\/s1600\/PajamaParty_76wDad.tif\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/anne.myupcomingsite.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/blogger\/-XcxCKPLH4bw\/T8FJRNb7mGI\/AAAAAAAAAv4\/6rMjqMehbGA\/s320\/PajamaParty_76wDad.tif\" width=\"316\" height=\"320\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td>Three of us with Dad&#8230;the growing-up years.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<p>Family ties are a magical thing&#8230;if you are lucky, you can depend on your family in good times and bad. I&#8217;ve been very fortunate in that department; I consider my brothers and sister much more than siblings, but close confidantes. Even though my brothers live in other states, and I wish we could be together more often, I know they&#8217;ve always got my back.<\/p>\n<p>Virtually all books have something to say about the powerful connection of family in shaping who we become or &#8212; in some cases &#8212; don&#8217;t become. Writing down childhood memories creates a wonderful\u00a0 legacy to leave the next generation, and even those who faced painful childhoods can often heal themselves and others through their stories.<\/p>\n<p>In an interview with <i>The Economist<\/i>, <span>Secretary of the Royal Society of Literature and Literary Editor of Intelligent Life<\/span> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.economist.com\/node\/21540925\">Maggie Ferguson<\/a> said the best memoirs pull you in from the beginning.\u00a0 &#8220;The disaster with memoir is when it sells sentiment. I think it&#8217;s a disaster if you are settling scores with other people. There has to be generous root.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Here are two memoirs &#8212; one published back in 2005 and one coming out next week &#8212; worth a closer look:<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/The-Tender-Bar-A-Memoir\/dp\/0786888768\">The Tender Bar<\/a> by J.R. Moehringer &#8212; a poignant memoir about a boy striving to become a man, and his romance with a bar. A national bestseller, <i>The Tender Bar<\/i> was named one of the <i>New York Times&#8217; <\/i>100 Most Notable Books of 2005<i>. <\/i><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/0307387380\/ref=s9_al_bw_g14_ir02?pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&amp;pf_rd_s=center-2&amp;pf_rd_r=13APFEV9SJ7YAS0MNZE9&amp;pf_rd_t=101&amp;pf_rd_p=1369089682&amp;pf_rd_i=2\"><i>Blue Nights<\/i> <\/a>by Joan Didion &#8212; to be released May 29th &#8211; is described as &#8220;a work of stunning frankness about losing a daughter.&#8221; This book already is getting significant acclaim as a<i> New York Times <\/i>Notable Book.\u00a0<i><\/i> Didion shares memories from own childhood and married life, as she reflects on her daughter\u2019s life and on her role as a parent. She grapples with the candid questions that all parents face.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n ","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>My five-year-old daughter was very proud of this portrait she created of our extended family.\u00a0 &#8220;Make four copies and give them to Aunt Lisa, Uncle Mike, Uncle Matt and Grandpa,&#8221;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[379,7],"tags":[400,399,401,397,398,396],"class_list":["post-114","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-book-reviews","category-writing-tips","tag-blue-nights","tag-j-r-moehringer","tag-joan-didion","tag-recommended-memoirs","tag-the-tender-bar","tag-writing-memoirs"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/anne.myupcomingsite.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/114","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/anne.myupcomingsite.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/anne.myupcomingsite.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/anne.myupcomingsite.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/anne.myupcomingsite.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=114"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/anne.myupcomingsite.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/114\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":598,"href":"https:\/\/anne.myupcomingsite.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/114\/revisions\/598"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/anne.myupcomingsite.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=114"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/anne.myupcomingsite.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=114"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/anne.myupcomingsite.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=114"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}